tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-378074098323574416.post495074963309324790..comments2023-10-28T15:22:39.389+00:00Comments on What can't be looked for: A conversation with a friendCraverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13162735846773014967noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-378074098323574416.post-45316358123897751812007-05-22T02:50:00.000+00:002007-05-22T02:50:00.000+00:00"With my 20 year reunion only a few months away, I..."With my 20 year reunion only a few months away, I’ve already decided that the two people I’m traveling with are really the only two people I ever need to see from high school again." .... I'm crushed. :(<BR/><BR/>Seriously, though, I remember those days in high school. The cheerleader-types, the ones who hung out at the "jock rail" during 10-minute break. I never wanted to be part of their group (not that there was anything wrong with them, but they seemed somewhat "artificial" to me, and we had little in common), but it did make me wonder if there was something wrong with me because I DIDN'T want to be part of their group.<BR/><BR/>They were never overtly rude or condescending to me specifically, but they were to others. And their general air of superiority was infuriating. I discovered early, however, that you could "kill them with kindness." Their "power" came from their ability to hurt the feelings of their victims ... if you didn't let them hurt your feelings, it hurt them. And, if you were complimentary to them (especially if the compliments were genuine) ... Fatal Blow!<BR/><BR/>I try to remember that today, as an adult, when dealing with the grown-up versions of those people. Sometimes, it's hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-378074098323574416.post-26552748471408147912007-05-16T00:40:00.000+00:002007-05-16T00:40:00.000+00:00I am content to remain the Odd Girl in the Office....I am content to remain the Odd Girl in the Office.<BR/><BR/>When I get "THAT" look from other girls in the office, I grin and say "I know. I forgot to comb my hair. AGAIN. But I remembered to wear a bra!"<BR/><BR/>They slowly back away and leave me alone.<BR/><BR/>It's probably better that way. I would compliment their taste in clothes, if I had any room to judge.<BR/><BR/>(I wear pretty much the same thing every day, in varying shades)rennratthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08258514296905380163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-378074098323574416.post-27249343179912580292007-05-15T20:01:00.000+00:002007-05-15T20:01:00.000+00:00Counselor Jen is IN.Theme song: Get over it, by OK...Counselor Jen is IN.<BR/><BR/>Theme song: Get over it, by OK Go.<BR/><BR/>As one who stands to pee, I must acknowledge that there are advantages to being a man. But I've never been a fan of the 'us vs. them' mentality, since every human has hurts, wants, & needs.<BR/><BR/>I've seen the behavior your friend is talking about, and don't get it. I would agree with the insecurity/ defense theme. People with confidence are hella cool.Biff Spiffyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12779819218871812658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-378074098323574416.post-23549236124998998862007-05-15T17:14:00.000+00:002007-05-15T17:14:00.000+00:00Let's face it - there are shallow stupid women/men...Let's face it - there are shallow stupid women/men/people in this world who ain't nothing more than a surface sheen that hides a black hollow heart.<BR/><BR/>I would hate to be them. It's ever so much nicer to not give a shit and enjoy life.<BR/><BR/>Rock on indeed.tiffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01351692108818152561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-378074098323574416.post-39380762858530405672007-05-15T13:33:00.000+00:002007-05-15T13:33:00.000+00:00I agree with you wholeheartedly, and I do the ezac...I agree with you wholeheartedly, and I do the ezact same thing.<BR/><BR/>Rock on with your bad self, my dear.Tracy Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05310783668282179929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-378074098323574416.post-11863788076950338302007-05-15T10:38:00.000+00:002007-05-15T10:38:00.000+00:00you are so grown. this happens to me on the daily....you are so grown. this happens to me on the daily. my comeback arsenal consists of the following:<BR/>Can i help you?<BR/>Do i HAVE three eyes in my head?<BR/>and the ever popular<BR/>fuck are you lookin' at? <BR/>*ahem*<BR/>i still think this comes from no mama training. and also...in neighborhoods like MINE, women or no, you don't just be lookin' at people and i contend that the desperate housewife wannabes would do this less if they got plunked down in the middle of parsons ave and got their no depth having behinds(and by this i mean less that they are shallow and more that they don't have booty)handed to them once or twice. <BR/>:DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-378074098323574416.post-71480317967722868862007-05-15T04:24:00.000+00:002007-05-15T04:24:00.000+00:00I agree with Anne; it is insecurity and jealousy. ...I agree with Anne; it is insecurity and jealousy. Also, I have observed that it happens more often with people who don't have the highest of IQ's. As I get older, I try not to 'diss' other woman - I celebrate their accomplishments and I applaud our diversities.kenjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342414519714356343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-378074098323574416.post-10000663223434316872007-05-15T03:07:00.000+00:002007-05-15T03:07:00.000+00:00I don't think it's really hate; it's mostly insecu...I don't think it's really hate; it's mostly insecurity.<BR/>We are all made to feel inadequate by the media.<BR/>Many men judge us too much on our looks, and many women feel they need men, so we are in competition there.<BR/>Even our jobs are insecure, so many women try to make others look bad in an attempt to be the last to get laid off.<BR/>It's very sad. All women are sisters in a way, but we have allowed ourselves to be divided and conquered, especially our younger sisters. It takes time to build up one's own independence and sense of worth. Luckily there are some people like yourself who refuse to play that game. Hopefully others can learn from that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-378074098323574416.post-68554590660203475852007-05-15T01:42:00.000+00:002007-05-15T01:42:00.000+00:00This is so great.Particularly because yesterday I ...This is so great.<BR/>Particularly because yesterday I was sitting at the mall talking with a guy friend and a woman walked by and gave me this ...look. You know, A Look. And he said "Women are such bitches."<BR/>And the thing is, a lot of the time, he's not wrong.Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13158409505328990008noreply@blogger.com